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Raising LGBTQ Allies:

A Parent's Guide to Changing the Messages from the Playground

by Chris Tompkins

What started originally as a letter I wrote my family to address a conversation that wasn’t taking place, has since become:

  • an article published on eight different media platforms,

  • a TEDx talk

  • a parenting guide (available below), 

  • a workshop and presentation,

  • and coming soon, a book published by Rowman & Littlefield


Raising LGBTQ Allies is the first parenting book to focus on the prevention of homophobia, transphobia, and bullying before they begin. It encourages families to have open and authentic conversations in a practical, timely, and inclusive way. It also creates a dialogue with parents around the possibility they may have an LGBTQ child.

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What are Messages from the Playground?


Messages from the Playground are the subconscious messages we all pick up from our childhood. We all have them. They formulate our beliefs and our beliefs become the lens through which we interpret the world.


What is the Messages from the Playground parenting guide?


A companion to Raising LGBTQ Allies, it's a tool you can use with youth ages 6-24 to:

Uncover negative beliefs. 

Prevent queerphobia and bullying.

Embrace and empower all youth.

Build a child’s confidence.

Heal shame. 

Create allies.

Included with each guide:

7 simple and effective steps to use guides.

A tool to facilitate open and authentic conversations.

A process to uncover negative beliefs. 

A self-empowerment technique. 

A self-esteem activity for kids.

Advice for parents.

A whole lot of love. 

In order to provide an intervention, we have to define the problem. 

"Amazing message and helps touch on such an important topic. I will definitely be sharing this with parents and the LGBT/therapist groups I’m a part of; I think this is a valuable resource us practitioners can share to start opening healing dialogue."

Mental Health Therapist

Costa Mesa

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