In 2014, I was on a road trip home to Arizona when it suddenly occurred to me that no matter who we are or where we come from, we are ALL on a sort of metaphorical "road trip to love." 

 

Whether it’s self-love, the love of another person, or spirituality/religion…love is our destination and the journey always begins WITHIN.

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Living 25 years of my life as a closeted gay man, I was pretty good at putting up walls, mastering human behavior, and blaming everything outside of myself for my unhappiness.

 

Over the years, I’ve come to learn that the inner struggle I had is not uncommon among many gay men. It's not possible for a gay man to be socialized in a dominant heteronormative culture and not feel the sting of homophobia.

 

As such, the most important, and empowering, journey gay men can take is to heal the negative conscious and unconscious beliefs that we've internalized about ourselves.

 

What got me to where I am today is my journey of healing and personal recovery. For more than a decade, I've worked to transform my past pain and heal from conscious and unconscious limiting beliefs. Beliefs that tried to convince me that I wasn't good enough, smart enough, or attractive enough. 

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After nearly 15 years of anesthetizing my pain with drugs and alcohol and eight years of sobriety, what I share with others from my experience is that what people do at bars and what they do at church are ultimately the same: the pursuit of a connection with something beyond the realm of this world. It’s just that one source is sustainable, and one isn’t.

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What I've come to learn from my own path is that connecting with our spirituality--or the direct experience of our own essence--loving ourselves, and taking full responsibility for our lives and choices is where our strength lies at the deepest level. 

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If you're ready to gain a greater sense of purpose, healing, self-acceptance, and belonging, reach out today.

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